So, I recently got back online a couple of dating sites. Sometimes liking or swiping right becomes a bit of a game and you may end up with a lot of matches. This happened to me and one day I was going through the past couple of days worth of chats and one guy reached out with a “Hi” at that very moment. I replied with a “Hi Dave…. or do you prefer to be called David”. He responded with… “I’m Scott”! I was mortified and apologized profusely. I felt really bad and realized that I needed to be more organized with my online dating.
Now you might be thinking Wow that’s great that you have so many matches. I didn’t say they were quality matches but it’s a good start to begin narrowing down to find people with similar interests. I did think it was funny that is was raining men!!! Lol.
Ok I did want to share 5 tips for staying organized when online dating until you meet someone and take your profiles down. I have found these things to be extremely helpful and have allowed me to have more quality conversations and dates.
Tips:
- Keep notes on each person! – I use a small notebook and jot down information on the person like their name, age, personal and career details. I use a small notebook so that each page is can be used for a different person and if someone ends up not being a good match, I can tear out that page and toss it.
- Some of the sites show views to its members so if you go back and look at someone to check out their pictures or show a friend their picture, they will see that you have viewed them. I know that Zoosk and Match show this but Bumble and OK Cupid don’t. I don’t always want the person to know that I was looking at their profile because it didn’t always mean that I was super interested. To solve this problem, I started taking a screenshot on my phone of any information that I may want to reference later. This has worked like a charm and I highly recommend it. You can go on the camera roll on your phone to view the information when you want. I know it may seem creepy that people can do this and have information and pictures of you but you should not put anything out there without knowing that it may be shared or end up on someone else’s camera roll.
- Try and keep your matches and chats to an amount that is reasonable for you. Sure, it can boost your ego and confidence to be chatting with a lot of guys but if your goal is to make a meaningful connection and get off the site then take the time to get to know a few people at a time (maybe even just 1-2) to keep it manageable.
- Also, it may be nice to see a long list of people that have liked your profile. I suggest that you look at each profile and make a decision at that point if they don’t fit what you are looking for to hit the big x and remove them from the list. Staying organized means keeping things manageable.
- Finally, if you are looking to make one meaningful connection and decide to put some effort into someone but aren’t ready to take your profile down then it may not be a bad idea to state in your profile that you only have time to connect with 1 person at a time. I found that this can help reduce stalkers as well as make guys feel better if they don’t get a response from you.
Good luck to you in this crazy online dating world!